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                    1. One thing I have observed is getting from bad situation to good is a min 2-step process 'cos first you need to get somewhere you can think.
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                    For me first I had to get out of a place where I was on a work-permit and went home in tears more often than not.
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                  It's scary to be that unhappy in your job on a work permit because quitting means finding somewhere else quickly or leaving the country.
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                Thinking about this a lot lately because side projects were an important part of this strategy and I'm gonna be talking about why jsconfeu
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              For example my manager at the time (the worst manager) believed that by never giving me positive feedback he was training me not to need it.
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            This didn't work for me, can't imagine working for many people. But side projects allowed me to get some positive feedback I REALLY needed.
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          Anyway I had feels on the "if you hate it just quit" because if this wasn't true for me, a ww in Australia, it DEFINITELY isn't in the U.S.
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        In a shitty work situation it's easy to believe you deserve what you are getting - not better. And it's why it's a >=2 step process.
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      And one strategy of a bad manager is to exploit your weaknesses - good ones work with you on them. It's part of why it's so insidious.
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    I was afraid and it took me a long time to tell this story because I internalized it as my failure but I've managed to (mostly) let that go.
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      It's not imposter syndrome when it's the environment that says you shouldn't be there. It's managers like him. modelviewculture.com/pieces/the-trouble-with-imposters